We Lost the “Gay Wars” Culturally…But Now We Win Spiritually

Looking back on it, I’m not sure how any of us could have honestly thought cultural acceptance of “alternative sexuality,” its embrace of immorality, its futile attempt at rewriting God’s eternal laws of marriage was ever in question.  I’m not suggesting that Christians should not have engaged the culture with the truth about each of those things, but just that perhaps we shouldn’t have expected a worldly society to walk the path of righteousness.

Worldly people do worldly things.  Godless people embrace ungodly things.  With as self-evident as that is, I am really at a loss as to why Christians who had even a tenuous grip on the true character of our once “Christian” nation thought we could win the “gay wars” politically or culturally.

Appealing to the wise counsel of our Founding Fathers who cautioned against betrayal of God’s moral order, and who rightfully observed that without the promotion of Christianity’s virtues in the public square, private morality would collapse, government would grow, and a free society would necessarily disappear, ignored the fact that they were talking to contemporaries who shared a unified worldview.  We are not.  And therefore our appeals were destined to fall on deaf ears.

But just as sure as Christians were destined to lose a worldly culture to the world, we are now positioned stronger than ever to win back souls from the grip of earthly misery into heavenly redemption.  I’m serious.  The darker culture gets – and it’s getting darker by the day – the brighter the Gospel of Christ’s redemption will shine.

Take for instance an insanely powerful testimony by Jaclyn S. Parrish that appeared recently at The Gospel Coalition, spectacularly titled, “I Married a Same-Sex Attracted Man. And I Am Blessed.”  You want to talk about counter-cultural?  You want to talk about standing worldly wisdom on its head?  Jaclyn’s words strike more blows for the truth of Christianity than a million Supreme Court arguments against gay marriage.

Here’s just a sample:

Marriage is an incarnate manifestation of Christ and his church (Eph. 5:22–33), a living and breathing argument for the gospel. Nothing less than his grace could empower us to forgive as much as marriage requires (Matt. 18:21–35). Nothing less than a perfectly faithful God could give us courage to trust something as faithless as another human (1 Tim. 2:13). And nothing less than his love could compel us to love as wholly as we must (1 John 4:19).


But to think, we might have missed it. Without his past sin and present struggle, Sam and I might have plodded through our entire life together and missed the miracle. But because of my husband’s struggle with same-sex attraction, we get to see our marriage for what every Christian marriage is: a wondrous, dangerous, glorious, and thunderous testimony to the greatness of God’s redemption and the goodness of his plan.

I’d encourage you to read the whole thing, not just as an inspiration, but as a call to action.  This is the kind of truth that separates what we have as believers from what the world has to offer.  This is a testimony of freedom verses worldly enslavement to sin.  This is the fulfillment of identity in Christ pitted against the emptiness of identity in fickle lusts.

This is how we fight back against an enemy who already thinks he won – not by futile attempts to dictate real morality on resistant men through legislation, but by offering the better, fuller life to desperate and empty men through our testimony to the truth.

There are good days ahead.

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